Dear Girls…

I remember first being aware of the way I look in a way I never had before, I was at school, probably aged 8 and the boys were calling me names for being so naturally slim. I remember going home and crying my eyes out and becoming paranoid from that point on in a way I never had before. I started looking at girls around me and thinking why don't I look like that, maybe I am too skinny. Until i noticed those same boys picking on other girls in the class for being over weight and 'bad at sports'. I also remember hitting 13 and being on a 'non uniform day' at school on a Summers day and being sent home to change because I was wearing shorts... I was so humiliated but told it attracted 'too much attention' which I just didn't understand, i was a 13 year old girl dressing for the weather. Why could the boys wear shorts and not me?  That's when I realised we lived in a world that didn't teach boys to stop sexualising and judging girls, and taught girls to shut up and get changed. 

Fast forward to 2016 and social media has taken over the world in a way that nobody could ever fathom. We've gone from wishing we looked like the girls in the magazines to wishing we looked like Sandra up the road who posts bikini pics everyday looking sensational. At least the girls in the magazines seemed so far away out of reach back then and now the challenge to be perfect is so close to home. This body type is so unreachable and unrealistic yet the whole world is jumping on the band wagon. When will we see that everyone is beautiful and the only persons happiness that matters in pleasing is your own? 

I know I know, I myself am model and in the most narcissistic career there is. Ive chosen to put myself at the forefront of being judged by the world, however its this job that has made me see the damage so much more. I often receive messages online from very young girls asking me why they don't look a certain way, why they're 'ugly', and some of them even telling me of the amount of times they've slit their wrists over being bullied and judged online. On the other hand I sometimes receive nasty comments about myself, from people thinking they can critique the way I look or my personality off of the internet, even adults. It comes with my job apparently, but this is happening to much much younger girls all over the world that won't laugh it off like I do... Its an extremely scary era for young people to grow up into who look at the internet for acceptance of which means so much to them at that age. The facts are staggering of the amount of young girls hurting themselves and even taking their own lives as a result of feeling worthless from bullies critiquing the way they look. Being female Is bloody tough as it is, so why do so many of us have to bring each other down online? 

My advice to the girls reading this is to be lovely and supportive to everyone you encounter, support and empower the other girls you know, because you never know what someone else is really going through. Your only competition in life is yourself; tell others when their hair is on point or their smile is beautiful. Be unapologetic in being yourself, have fun, dye your hair if you want, wear mini skirts if you fancy it, ignore the idiotic boys that think they can judge you but probably just fancy you. Smile, be healthy, wear as much or as little makeup as you want, do the things you adore and don't even blink at anyone else's opinion as it's irrelevant. 

' I don't have to prove anything to anyone, I only have to follow my heart and concentrate on what I have to say to the world. I run my world' - Beyoncé

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